Wednesday, March 5, 2008
The Naughty Spot
My sister Jeralee gave me the Supernanny book for my birthday. We've had some issues with Chandler not obeying what we say, testing his limits, hitting other kids, going to bed...etc. I was thrilled to get this and try some of her techniques. We recently moved in with my parents for about 6 weeks. Our lease was up at our apt complex, rent was going up, and we didn't want to sign a new lease, so we are kicking it with my parents for now, lol. Marshall and I decided since we were in a new environment that it would be a good idea to start implementing some discipline and get into a routine. Routine has always been hard for me as I love to stay up really late and sleep in in the morning, but I figure it is worth it if it helps Chandler to be better behaved.
Supernanny suggests finding some area away from distractions when they are being disciplined, alas, we have the naughty spot. My sister uses a piece of carpet, we use this lovely black X. I noticed my friend Sara had an X with tape for time out for her little boy and I thought it was a great idea so we decided to go for that.
If Chandler is doing something that is unacceptable he gets one warning and if he continues to do it, goes to the naughty spot. He stays there for 2 minutes since he is 2. I put him there and walk away so he can't see me, but so that I can hear or see him if he tries to get out. The first time we tried it, he came running after me 4 or 5 times. I don't look him in the eye or say anything to him, just simply put him back in the spot and walk away. After 2 minutes is up, I get down on his level and explain to him why he is in the naughty spot. The first couple days were really tough but it seems to be working wonderfully right now as long as I am consistent. He tends to throw himself on the floor and kick and scream for about the first 30 seconds but he's understanding there are consequences to his actions. He's also eating better at mealtimes since we've stopped giving him so many snacks, and he knows he CANNOT go out of the kitchen to eat or drink anything. There is another technique we are using at bedtime to get him to go down by himself since he is dependent on us laying down with him at night. There have been 3 nights so far that we haven't had to lay down with him, even though one of us (usually Marshall) has been in the room with him. Thanks Jer for giving me this book, it is AWESOME. I would recommend this book to anyone who has kids.